Dismissive or–tssss–Fierce?

Disclaimer: Today’s post contains some vulgar terms. Read at your own discretion.

I’m not sure when it started becoming a popular trend, but all I know is best friends are calling each other bitches, whores, hoes, hookers. I mean, is that the sweetest thing you can call your BFF?

Sometimes those things are said in the heat of the moment to offend people. But now, I feel like people have such a thick skin, they don’t know the meaning of offense or self-respect.

Few days ago I was on Snooki’s webpage—don’t ask—and I happened to notice her tweets: Love you, hooker. Check out this bitch—she is the best. I’m relaxing with my whores. After a few tweets, I was appalled. I’m sure she meant no harm, but aren’t there any better words in the dictionary she’d rather use?

It is not only Snooki, but I’ve seen people use this terms a lot lately. The thing that bothers me most is why anyone would allow to be called something like that.

Personally, I don’t believe it is—tssss—fierce. It doesn’t have such a nice tone to it, and I can’t even believe people respond when they’re called such names.

Please, appraise me: did it become a hotshot trend after Jwow or Snooki or, even worse, the sweetest bitch (Sammy) started calling each other those names? Do people use it as a dismissive term? Or it is a lovey-dovey term that is irreplaceable? I’d like to know.

Do we lack virtue, or are we wise enough?

If I could write a book, it’d be a dystopian where kids are required to study Ethics as a requirement (like English and Math). Certainly, there will be opponents who’d think that is just tacky and, perhaps, they might do something to disrupt society. However, I’d make sure the story ends in a way those opponents understand the essence of ethics and agree with the society. (Maybe I should attempt to write this during NaNoWrimo.)

Surprisingly enough, from what I observed, lack of proper virtue is what is missing in college. College, paradoxically, will make you feel two things simultaneously. On one hand, you’re so happy you’re free. No more curfews, no more clean your room before I make you clean the entire house, no more keep the door open when you bring a girlfriend/boyfriend to your house—no more restrictions, is the point. On the other hand, you’ll feel like you’re thiiiiiis close to a better future where you don’t have to do home works, or do a 44 page reading about MySpace and Facebook for class (although that is quite interesting and fun to do, it’d lose its fun quality when it becomes a “requirement”), or solve any mathematical problems (no offense to Math nerds). The point is: you’ll have a future where you’ll do whatever you want without teachers/parents telling you to do it—which, personally, is much more enjoyable.

Whilst freedom and better future sounds good, the problem is how far we go to have fun, explore and experience college life.

I’m not going to say drink, don’t drink, or limit your drinks; nor will I say hook-up, don’t hook-up, or limit your hook-ups. I will say this, though: whenever you do something fun or is a must for a college life, question your motive. We are so young at this age, and I don’t get why anyone would want to have all the fun now and have nothing for the rest of their life. More importantly, though, this is a crucial moment for students to strive better than ever, and prove to oneself—or parents—that they are worth all the trouble.

When we get the freedom we’ve been craving for, we go nuts, I kid you not. When we get plenty of choices to choose from, we let those choices control us rather than controlling them. It’s like what Carrie Bradshaw said: “We’re spoiled by choices we’re unable to make one.” We’re bombarded with so many things we’re oblivious to what is right for us.

I think, perhaps, choice didn’t spoil us rather than giving us a splendid life. Perhaps the real issue is we don’t have the moral to question what is right or wrong; what should be limited or not; how much is too much; and, how much will impact our future, in a good and bad way?

Some people might read this and say, “Boohoo0—you’re boring.” In that case, I’m going to use the infamous Trey MacDougal’s term, “alrighty,” and move on. But must know this: we always pay for our actions. It might not be tomorrow, or the next day after that, or next week, or three, four, five years later. But we will pay, and we’ll regret our action and wish we had made a wise choice.

We think we’re always right unless someone brings convincing points to show us that we are not. Fairly, it is normal to think that way; it is only wrong to think we’re always right. With this mentality, we do whatever we like and we glibly consider ourselves bright, right, and wise. Yet, a person’s intelligence and virtue is measured by their humble quality to learn from their mistakes.

I’m not asking anyone to ignore fun. Not at all—do have fun—but know your limit. College opens great opportunities for students to meet different kind of people and learn different cultures and life styles. So hang out with those people you met, you know, ahem, sober. What about the clubs you signed up the first week of college—when was the last time you showed up for a meeting?

In short: be wise and ethically correct!