For the past few days, I have been thinking a lot about friendship. Not necessarily best friends, but just friends. Friends like the ones you don’t have to tell your deepest, darkest secret, yet you remain in touch. You go out for a drink or movies. You talk about the world, life, movies, art, God, money, etc. They’d know things about you, but not completely everything. It’s like one of those people you can count on; the ones you can call and ask if they’d like to grab a cup of coffee because you feel like rambling – and vice versa.
I’ve been watching movies focusing on this topic specifically, and I was mainly fascinated by the fact that it is a lot easier for other individuals to make friends than it is for me. (Side note: maybe it looked easier because it is a movie and it is scripted, and they’re supposed to be friends … if they want to get paid. Regardless, it was fascinating to see how people can create friendship with an admirable ease.) It seems like almost everyone has this friendship lingo they can speak except for some exceptions.
I bet those exceptions think, I want to make friends that I can go to Starbucks with to talk about everything and anything till past midnight. I want to make friends I can hang out with and laugh and … just admire life. I want to make friends I can go shopping with, or sleep over at their place (because I had been in the neighborhood, and they insist I sleep over). I want to make friends that love me, appreciate me, (not think but) believe that I am an intelligent human being they enjoy having intelligent conversations with, and just have fun with me. I want friends that can make me laugh out loud and do silly things with me and just help me appreciate life for what it is.
I’m not entirely sure on the accurate description or connotation of what a friendship is, but I think they’re individuals that you are comfortable being around and you depend on. They might not make it to your emergency contact list, but they’re the ones that’ll be there when you’re in trouble. Perhaps friendship doesn’t have an absolute definition. Perhaps people define friendship in a way a person fills a hole in their life. However, one thing is for sure: they will always be there!
Fellow readers, enlighten me: what does friendship means to you? What do you expect from them, and vice versa?